My Postpartum Reality

5.23.20178:26 PM

Its been almost two months since Temi has been born (check out her birth story here), Its been quite an adjustment to not only get used to having a newborn around but also just back to being myself. I realize having a baby does a lot to the body not only physically but emotionally and this past two months I have spent time not only getting to know my new baby but also getting back to myself. Like I said in previous post this pregnancy was a lot different this time around than the first time, my body felt that difference the most, after I had my first daughter my snap game was on point but this time around I am learning that its a process. I have heard the saying "it took 9 months to grow this child so it will take time for your body to return to what it was before". After the first month I noticed that my belly stopped going down, I knew that my uterus was done shrinking back to size (cause those awesome cramps were done) Anyway it started to make me worry because I expected my body wasn't gonna bounce back like first baby, but I didn't think I would still be looking 6 months pregnant after the baby was out. So of course I started to google and research the heck out of everything, in my research I learnt about Diastasis Recti. Pretty much what that means, is my abdominal muscle is separated a little more than the usual separation you get from pregnancy and thus is causing the wonderful pooch I have been rocking post baby. Its been a struggle coming to term with how I look right now, and of course along with my wonderful pooch I am still carrying quite a bit of weight and not back to my pre baby weight just yet.

Dress c/o pinkblush
But a couple of weeks ago I decided I was gonna stop being in my feelings about the whole situation, I can't change my body to become what I want it to be overnight so all I can do is get a better outlook on it all. So within the last week I have started to exercise again, nothing too crazy or intense mostly because with Diastasis I can't do anything too extreme. I also decided to start actually dressing up (enough with the sweatpants lol), I still can't quite fit into all my pre-baby clothes but thankfully I have been able to find a few items that I feel comfortable in like this beautiful PinkBlush dress, its very free and airy perfect for this wonderful Texas heat and the off-shoulder is very much on thread which I love.

Pregnancy is one of the most rewarding and beautiful periods in a woman's life honestly, but it does put your body through quite a bit. Sadly we live in world today where women have a baby and the next day they are posting their washboard abs (which is definitely goals lol), and people want to pretend like their lives are perfect and peachy. But the reality is most women have a baby and they probably never see their abs again or they probably never lose that baby weight but that is fine, the most important thing for me during this time is making sure I am mentally intact and I am present for my children and love them the right way than beating myself up because my body doesn't look the way some strangers does a minute after they had their baby last week. I am enjoying this time and respecting that my recovery and body isn't the same as the next.


10 comments:

  1. The mindset shift is so important! My body after #2 is definitely not the same as after baby #1. Bouncing back was a whole lot easier the first time. But now I'm a year in with #2 and I feel good about my body, stretchmarks and all.

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    1. Thank you Emily it's definitely a process and mindset thing

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  2. You sound like a wonderful mom and person, thanks for being so honest about post-pregnancy. You are beautiful no matter what! :)

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  3. Love your transparency in this post. You are absolutely beautiful. Give your body time to get back to where you used to be, or where you are comfortable with yourself rather. We all have insecurities that eat away at us but it's so important to try to focus on what blessings we do have- like having a healthy new baby :)

    Again you look great, but I do pray that your condition settles and you are able to get back to your "normal" self so you can get your confidence back <3

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    1. Thank you Abby I appreciate your advice and will definitely remember it.

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  4. Thank you for sharing your feelings and experiences. I will pray that you and your baby will be happy and healthy. Best of luck.
    XOXO //SINCERELY OPHELIA | NYC Petite Fashion Blogger

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  5. Let me start with you look absolutely lovely! I'm currently pregnant with my second baby and I totally understand how different each pregnancy can be! I too had diastasis recti after my first baby and there are a bunch of exercises you can do to help correct the issue just search on pinterest and there are tons. It took a few months but I did eventually correct mine. Just stick with it, you will get there!
    -Emily @ livingfitwithemily.com

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    1. Thank you Emily and will be sure to search those exercises

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