How I style/care for my 4year old's natural hair

6.27.20171:33 PM

Growing up my hair as always been super FULL and super THICK, which is something everyone admires  but I am not a big fan of because doing my hair is such a hassle. When I got pregnant with my first daughter I made a decision that I wasn't going to put any type of chemical in her hair such as a relaxer/perm, I know the amount of damage relaxers did to my hair especially my scalp so I just wanted her hair to flourish and do a lot better than mine. But as God would have it, she has the same exact hair texture as mine from fullness to thickness (it's a pain doing her hair let me tell you). So to avoid her hair breaking, I have had to learn some hair care routines for her hair over the years.



  • Conditioner is our best friend! I make sure to deep condition her hair every week, it gives the hair moisture and makes it easier to comb through (her least fave part lol)
  • LOC Method, when I started my natural hair journey and started researching ways to care for our hair, moisture and moisture retention was major key! And one of the ways I learnt to help is the LOC METHOD (for all you new to natural hair care, that means liquid, oil, cream) I try to use this method especially after deep conditioning while her hair is still wet, I put oil in her hair (using any of my fave either coconut oil, olive oil and the one we are currently using Jamaican Castro oil) then lock in the moisture from the water and oil with any type of cream based hair lotion ( I am a big fan of the shea moisture creams) 
  • Protective styling goes a long way.  In order to prevent breakage we stick to a strong protective styling schedule and not messing with her hair too much, thank God I have learnt how to braid her hair and style it in different ways and also with the help of the internet (Instagram pages) I am able to get fun ideas on ways to style her hair as well.



I will be honest I am no master at this, but these are some things I have learnt over time that work for me. What/how are some ways you all take care of your little ones hair?

Raising Confident Little Girls

6.14.20171:45 PM

A few weeks ago, I was doing my 4 years old hair and she said something very interesting that got me thinking about how I am raising my girls and the changes I need to make moving forward. Anyway back to the story, so while doing her hair on the bottle of the hair creme I was using on her hair is a drawing of a black woman with very curly/full Afro in an  up-do, she looks at the picture and goes "mommy she has ugly hair" I look at the picture and then I look at her and I say what do you mean? She then goes "its not beautiful like Elsa's" I was so confused and honestly wasn't sure what to say in that moment. Yes of course Elsa has beautiful hair I am not disagreeing with her on that but, my shock was more on the fact that she didn't think this black woman's hair depicted beauty or that she felt this pale white character with long blonde hair was more beautiful than the black lady. So when I finally got my thought together I asked her, why she thought the lady in the picture's hair wasn't beautiful like Elsa's, I then made a point to let her know that the lady in the picture had the same type of hair as hers, did she not think her hair was beautiful?


That moment wasn't only a teachable moment for her, but also for me because it got me thinking what am I showing as representation for my girls? What am I teaching them? Your kids learn from not only what you tell them, but also what they see. And we live in a world where thanks to the internet and social media beauty and standards on beauty are all one set standard and I don't want my girls having to live their life thinking there is only one type of beautiful. It's funny when I got pregnant the first time I wanted so badly to have a girl  and to dress her up and do her hair and just have my own life size barbie, but being a parent is obviously more than that but...... being a parent to a girl is extra more than that (lol that's not good English kids). I don't have the tips to raising confident little girls in our social media driven world, and every child is different, but the biggest take away for me from this experience is that I have to be the role model that I want my children to have. What I want my children to learn and see in the world is what I need to depict to them every single day. Society already makes it hard enough to be a girl, as a parent I need to make it just a little easier on them and be ahead of the world in molding them.