Baby #2: Expectations vs. Reality

TuesdayJanuary 17, 2017

If you follow my instagram page, then you are aware that I am pregnant with baby #2. I am so excited for our family to be growing, and to be able to welcome this new little one into our home. Of course being pregnant with baby #2 is a little different, the symptoms I felt with my first pregnancy compared to this one are completely different a lot of things that I thought would be different are not and a lot of things I thought would be similar are definitely not.  

My first pregnancy I would say was a walk in the park and didn't really set me up mentally for other pregnancies to follow. The first time around I had no signs of morning sickness, nausea or any of the weird symptoms people describe in their first trimester. I was quite exhausted but I think based on the job I had at the time I would have been exhausted regardless lol. So of course this time around I was hoping for the same symptoms, boy was I in for a big surprise. I didn't actually get morning sickness, but I was definitely nauseous the entire first three months of pregnancy. To be honest if I had just had morning sickness and been done with it I probably would have preferred that. But instead I just felt sick to my stomach almost every single day, everything made me want to puke but never actually made me and then I was super sleepy. I mean I could literally sleep at the drop of a dime.



The first time around, I think I didn't show till about the third trimester. I mean my belly was growing but it was more of the cute omg you are pregnant bump. This time around, i kid you not by 8 weeks I had a bump. My belly was so big by 15 weeks my mom even told me that I should probably ask the doctor to verify my due day lol (so rude). This entire pregnancy I have been spotting a belly and of course I understand its my second child so plenty of things that happened the first time around won't be the same but I had certain expectations i guess.

But through it all I think its just the nervousness of having another child that has shocked me the most. This is because I thought with another baby it would only get easier, I mean how much more could you screw up right? I am at a different point in my life than I was with my first pregnancy (a lot more mature, married and I was mentally prepared for this), but honestly I am very scared of what to expect. Of course I know that every child is different, and it will be a completely different experience with this baby than it was with my first baby but I its just the idea that now I am not just responsible for one little human but an even tinier human, its a very scary thought but maybe this is just me. And I know people are gonna say well you have a husband, which I know but also the thought of us not having any direct family members here to help makes me worry too.



All in all I am sure God will give me the strength to be best mom I can be to the these blessings, but if any mom's out there have felt this way I would really love to hear how you dealt with it and also how you got your other child/children ready for the new addition. Let me know your thoughts in the comments!

2 comments:

  1. Aw, how exciting!! I just had my second baby in September. I'm not going to lie, the transition is challenging. At least it was for me! But watching my toddler love on his little brother is absolutely priceless. And once we got into a new routine and I got the hang of getting two little boys ready, things settled down.
    My biggest tip for preparing your toddler is to include her as much as possible. Talk to her about the baby, ask for her thoughts and help, and refer to the baby as "our" baby. It sounds so simple, but it really helped!
    I wrote a blog post about how we prepared our toddler for the new baby, if you're interested!
    http://www.themerrymomma.com/2016/10/prepare-toddler-new-baby/
    Enjoy the ride! Feel free to contact me anytime - I would LOVE to encourage you as you navigate the transition. :)
    - Lisa
    P.S. I also showed MUCH sooner with my second and stuck out for miles. You look adorable. :)

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    1. Thank you so much Lisa, its so crazy how such a little person can give you so much anxiety lol I will be sure to check out your post need all the tips I can get.

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